Stop blaming the girls....lets hear it for the boys.....

HOW ABOUT THEM BOYS????

Since this has become a woman's issue on the left and and abortion issue on the right, lets pause for a moment and consider something.  That girl that needed or wanted an abortion did not get pregnant because she was gay. She didn't have an immaculate conception, most likely...she was with a boy.... This idea that these are women's issues are insane. It takes two to make a baby. SOOO what about these boys, again I have raised boys and girls so I get it...  Boys especially teenage and young me like girls, like a lot, but they also usually are not as into the whole committed relationship idea.  Ask a teenage girl and she will tell you about how she wants a committed relationship, wedding plans....etc .... Ask a teenage boy and he will likely not quite be as excited about that idea.  Usually its more about sports gaming and yes...sex.

So since we all want strong men of character, lets dig in...How many sermons, books... are all in on men and sexual assault.... Walk into any bookstore, church, ministry and you can find hundreds of resources for women, who are too often left to deal with the aftermath.  But how many do you see geared to young men, old men, middle aged men....usually the cause of the need for that ministry to the young unwed mother, the abused mother, the single mother....  81% of women and 43% of men experience sexual assault or harassment .... 1 in 5 women will experience rape or attempted rape....  93.6% of offenders are male.... So why is this a woman's issue.....

When will men call out the behavior from men?  When will older men hold the young men accountable? Ask a teacher who has the worst sexist, racist, or general disrespect for authority in the classroom, I guarantee its not the girls....Ask the girls if they would prefer to date boys who respect the idea of keeping it zipped up until they know her, love her and become her best friend.  Ask a boy if they hold that same idea. Ask the man in the office why he isn't calling out the behavior of the other guys, take a look at what kind of messages these "men" are sending women in the dating apps,  I guarantee that its not things like boy I would love to be in secure job, home and be married and ready for kids before we get it on. How about those older men who abused others in the past and no one turned them in and knew and feel as though they have gotten away with it but feel no remorse to come forward and admit their crimes. Lets stop blaming the alternative lifestyles, the books, the weed, the beer, the music....and lets call out the men.  

If we truly want an end to things like abortion, domestic abuse, poverty, welfare, insecure housing...then in this world its a mans issue.  Why are so many teenage boys unemployed.  How are 20 something men being allowed to game all day?  Why are these college men partying instead of taking careers seriously? How are their children, their legacy being born to women or aborted by people whom they have not entered into a committed relationship?  Why is the health of their family not important enough to stay loyal to one woman?  Why are they hiding their crimes, affairs and such if they are stronger than the women they victimize?

As for the girls...we will be OK we have been in the this world the whole time, we have been the victim, scapegoat, lesser vessel....mother, sister, friend......this isn't a new game...But be sure we know and this coming generation has each others backs, they are not their mothers or grandmothers or great grandmothers generation.  They are in a new world.